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Domestic violence is a pattern of abuse that may include physical, sexual, emotional, verbal, and financial elements where the abuser's conscious or unconscious goal is to gain or maintain control over the victim. Not all forms of domestic violence are against the law, and there are not always physical signs of abuse. Hurtful words and controlling behaviors sometimes outlast the scars from physical violence.



  • intimidation
  • fear
  • manipulation
  • guilt
  • shame
  • name-calling
  • punched walls
  • broken belongings
  • being shoved, beaten, choked, kicked
  • criticism
  • forced sex
  • control of finances
  • depression
  • abandonment
  • confusion
  • lying


  • crying and scared children
  • threats to take away the children
  • threats to kick them out
  • threats to kill them
  • sexist comments
  • scrapes and bruises
  • slammed doors
  • silent treatment
  • feelings of craziness
  • humiliation in public
  • drinking and fighting
  • violence to pets
  • broken promises
  • unwanted touching
  • isolation from family and friends

For more information about domestic violence and its prevalence in the United Sates, please visit these fact sheets by NCADV.


If you or a loved one is experiencing one or more of these from a current or former intimate partner, contact us at 1-888-541-SAFE. We want to help.