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Signs of  Domestic Violence


  • pushed or shoved you
  • restrained you from leaving
  • slapped or bit you
  • kicked, choked, hit, or punched you
  • locked you out of the house
  • abandoned you in a dangerous place
  • refused to help you when you were sick, injured, or pregnant
  • subjected you to reckless driving
  • forced you off the road or kept you from driving
  • threatened or hurt you with a weapon


  • told anti-women jokes or made demeaning remarks about women
  • treated women as sex objects
  • been jealously angry, assuming you would have sex with another
  • insisted you dress in a more sexual way than you wanted
  • minimized the importance of your feelings about sex
  • criticized your sexuality
  • insisted on unwanted and uncomfortable touching
  • raped you
  • withheld sex or affection
  • called you derogatory sexual names like "whore" or "frigid"
  • publicly showed sexual interest in other people
  • had affairs with others after agreeing to a monogamous relationship
  • forced you to have unwanted sex with others or forced you to watch others
  • forced particular unwanted sexual acts
  • forced sex after physical violence
  • forced sex when you were sick or it was dangerous to your health
  • forced sex for the purpose of hurting you with objects or weapons
  • committed sadistic sexual acts



  • ignored your feelings
  • ridiculed or insulted women as a group
  • ridiculed or insulted your most valued beliefs, your religion, race or heritage
  • withheld approval, appreciation, or affection as punishment
  • continually criticized you, called you names, shouted at you
  • insulted or drove away your friends or family
  • humiliated you in public or private
  • refused to socialize with you
  • kept you from working, controlled your money or made all decisions
  • refused to work or share money
  • took car keys or money away
  • regularly threatened to leave or told you to leave
  • threatened to kidnap the children if you left
  • abused pets to hurt you
  • told you about affairs in which the abuser has been engaged
  • harassed you about affairs the abuser imagined you were having
  • manipulated you with lies and contradictions


  • followed you
  • quizzed you about where you have been, whom you were with, etc.
  • listened to or monitored your phone calls
  • called you at work or friends' homes
  • sent threatening or obscene email to locate or harass you
  • sent you a multitude of junk email, spamming you
  • harassed you via live chat or flaming (online verbal abuse)
  • sent you electronic viruses
  • sent you unsolicited emails
  • traced your computer and internet activity
  • stole your electronic/internet identity
  • posted improper or enticing information on message boards & guest books using your name, phone number, or email address, resulting in subsequent responses being sent to you